The fact that we are living longer than our parents and grandparents is changing so many aspects of our lives.  One area that will be impacted by this longevity  is retirement accounts.  So many of our clients have it ingrained in their minds that they must not touch their retirement

Mary’s husband Joe, passed away several years ago but she continued to live in the home where they had raised their family.  Mary was now struggling with the effects of dementia.  But she wouldn’t hear of it when her children talked about moving her to a safer environment.  So they

I could hear the panic in Mary’s voice. Her husband Joe’s health had been steadily declining for years and Mary has been his primary caregiver. But last week he fell at home, breaking his hip, and now he’s in a subacute facility. The recovery process hasn’t gone well, in part because of Joe’s age and partly because of the toll that Alzheimer’s has taken on his mind. Mary is now facing the prospect of either long term care at a cost of $11,000 per month or, in an effort to keep the cost down, trying to bring him home and provide much of the care herself, supplementing it with a few hours of home aide assistance. “Joe never wanted to talk about long term care and so we never did plan for this,” she tells me. It’s a classic scenario and one that, so often, is more damaging to the wife than the husband. How so? Mary’s situation is a typical one. At 72, she’s 6 years younger than Joe. Add the fact that women have a longer life expectancy than men and chances are that the husband will need long term care first. And if the couple haven’t planned for it, they’ll likely spend most of their savings on his care. Mary and Joe have $400,000 of assets plus their house. Without any guidance Mary could be left with as little as $109,000 and the house before the State will help pay for Joe’s care.